00:02:59:23 - 00:03:01:17 Stephanie Hi, I'm Stephanie.

00:03:01:19 - 00:03:14:08 Seth I'm Seth, and this is the Forever Young show. The most powerful force in this world is a woman who knows who she is, why she is here, and what she wants to accomplish.

00:03:14:10 - 00:03:21:09 Stephanie And that's where self-care comes in. As a woman, it is my opportunity and my responsibility to take care of me.

00:03:21:11 - 00:03:23:09 Seth Self-care for your mind.

00:03:23:11 - 00:03:25:00 Stephanie Self-care for your body.

00:03:25:02 - 00:03:26:20 Seth Self-care for your money.

00:03:26:22 - 00:03:35:14 Stephanie Our mission is to serve women as they fulfill their irreplaceable roles in families, society, business, the fabric of humanity.

00:03:35:16 - 00:03:38:08 Seth So let's get this show on the road.

00:03:38:10 - 00:03:42:23 Stephanie Why did you want to come on our podcast? Why did you say yes?

00:03:43:05 - 00:03:55:14 Brittany Because I feel like I have a message for women that needs to be heard. And I love sharing it. And I love when women listen and then change their life.

00:03:55:17 - 00:04:15:18 Stephanie Honestly, that's why I asked you to come on, because, I mean, I've followed you on Instagram for so long, and just seeing your light and who you are, how you give people permission to be themselves and show up and just be them. I think that's a gift that, a lot of women need.

00:04:15:20 - 00:04:18:09 Brittany Thanks. Thanks for asking me to be on your podcast.

00:04:18:11 - 00:04:32:18 Seth Well, and there's a short list. There's a short list of, you know, as we're starting the show, like Steph, who do you want to be on the show? And it's just like, boom, boom, boom, boom. You know, I want, I want get out, girl. In fact, I will tell you, like, I didn't even really know your name for the longest time.

00:04:32:19 - 00:04:36:19 Seth Not that she didn't say it. Not that you don't have a name. We are all names. We are all.

00:04:36:19 - 00:04:38:01 Brittany Named.

00:04:38:03 - 00:04:43:01 Seth And I'm sure I'd heard Brittany, but it was just like. So are you getting together with Get Out girl? Like.

00:04:43:03 - 00:04:43:12 Brittany Well, I.

00:04:43:12 - 00:04:50:11 Stephanie Think some of that was because I have a sister named Brittany. And so it's easier just to be like, get out there, girl. Brittany, you.

00:04:50:11 - 00:04:51:22 Seth Know. Yeah. Get out there, girl. So.

00:04:51:22 - 00:05:03:22 Stephanie Yes. And I think it's also because, like, that was the first thing that I saw on your Instagram was get out there girl. And I'm like, who is this? You know? And so that really hit me and I've just kept it.

00:05:04:00 - 00:05:14:21 Brittany You're not the only one I get. Yeah. I've gotten asked like, oh are you get out there girl. And often they say get out girl. Like you did say like I did like thanks.

00:05:14:23 - 00:05:19:09 Seth Think we're just kind of smoothing over that.

00:05:19:11 - 00:05:33:07 Brittany But yeah that's that was that's the whole purpose. Like I think now I'm trying to lean more and more into like making sure people know who I am. My name, because of the self-compassion side that I'm doing. But my overall message is, you know, get out there.

00:05:33:10 - 00:05:34:13 Seth We're honored to have you here.

00:05:34:19 - 00:05:52:00 Brittany Thanks, I have to I did an interview last night with, a girl named Addie Herman, and I would love to introduce you guys to her. And you guys could interview her if if it's a good fit, you could look her up. I'll send her, send you her Instagram so you can check her out and see if you think it's a good fit.

00:05:52:01 - 00:06:12:00 Brittany So she has won the world championship in obstacle racing, and she's been on American Ninja Warrior for two plus times. And I think she actually won this one that's coming up, but they haven't aired it yet. It's coming up in a couple weeks, so she can't. She signed a non-disclosure, but she's like, I'm going to get a lot of publicity after it and.

00:06:12:02 - 00:06:21:21 Seth We need to meet with her next week. Then you need okay, Brittany, Brittany, I'm not going to refer to you. Get out there. Get out there and let's do it before the onslaught.

00:06:22:01 - 00:06:44:16 Brittany I'll. I'll send you her. I'll connect you guys. How about that? I'll. I'll create two messages and introduce you guys to her. She was phenomenal to interview. Like she's only 18 years old. And the wisdom that she has, she wants to public speak and spread her message. Her motto is persistence over perfection. And she's wonderful. So I'm like, girl, preach.

00:06:44:16 - 00:06:47:19 Brittany Like everybody needs to have you on their podcast, so I'll connect you.

00:06:48:01 - 00:06:49:02 Seth Sound bite.

00:06:49:06 - 00:07:08:00 Stephanie That's definitely something I've worked on. I've I've struggled with my whole life, as you know, feeling like I have to be perfect and allowing myself, you know, even a lot of people don't realize this, but like me showing up without makeup on, I mean, eye makeup on today, but me showing up without makeup on is so huge. Huge.

00:07:08:00 - 00:07:21:06 Stephanie You know, as a teenager, there were so many times, you know, things that were said to me that made me feel like I couldn't even leave the home without makeup on because I had acne or different things like that. So yes, that perfection pieces is a big one.

00:07:21:07 - 00:07:24:08 Seth Yeah. Well, now we're here today we're breaking generational curses.

00:07:24:10 - 00:07:30:00 Stephanie I would love to hear you talk about your most recent retreat. Dog sledding.

00:07:30:02 - 00:07:30:15 Brittany Yeah.

00:07:30:17 - 00:07:32:06 Stephanie Oh my goodness, how cool is that?

00:07:32:11 - 00:07:52:14 Brittany It was incredible. It really was. So I've been dog sledding four times now, and I thought this one would just, you know, be like. And do I really want to do it again? I really hesitated booking it. And then my husband was like, why not? And I had I probably had six women approach me and say, please do it like we really love it.

00:07:52:14 - 00:08:10:18 Brittany And in the past it had sold out so quickly, like we're talking three minutes. The retreat sold, sold out before. So I was like, it is my most popular one. Maybe I should do it again. Even though this will be my fourth time going. can it still be as magical the fourth time as it was the first time?

00:08:10:20 - 00:08:32:18 Brittany And absolutely like it was, it was incredible. And what made it incredible, like the the dog sledding was awesome and and magical in itself because it's such a beautiful location and it's such a fun, unique experience. But the women, this group of women were incredible. And to like, get to know each one of them and to hear their stories.

00:08:32:18 - 00:09:08:18 Brittany And every time I have a retreat, I walk away and I'm like, man, women are good. Like just really good and make me a better person with, you know, our conversations and the connection that happens. And it was I haven't laughed that hard in a really long time. It was so fun. And then, you know, it's just a good mix of laughing until you're going to pee your pants and then also like being vulnerable and, you know, getting a little teary eyed because you know something, you're sharing something so personal and having other women share their personal things, too.

00:09:08:18 - 00:09:16:11 Brittany And, it's just awesome. Retreats are I don't know, I don't I, I wouldn't want to live without retreats.

00:09:16:16 - 00:09:22:17 Stephanie I've definitely, been on the pursuit to go on one of your retreats. And, one day I started.

00:09:22:18 - 00:09:26:18 Brittany Off on my backpacking one soon, so, I don't know.

00:09:26:20 - 00:09:35:16 Seth I. She talks about it every single day. If you just see, you know, like, she's already waitlisted herself, she's like, well, you know, and I'm like, you know, baby. Awesome. This is awesome.

00:09:35:16 - 00:09:39:14 Brittany You know, that makes me happy. I hope you come.

00:09:39:16 - 00:09:48:01 Stephanie Me too. Me too. I watch you do these, and I can tell that there's so much good that happens. And I'm like, I want a piece of that.

00:09:48:03 - 00:09:59:12 Brittany the backpacking one is awesome, too, because it's so unplugged. Like there's no internet connection. There's nobody else like you. It's just you and nature, and it's pretty awesome.

00:09:59:13 - 00:10:00:23 Stephanie And I love nature so.

00:10:01:00 - 00:10:28:18 Seth Well, I think she's already waitlisted herself for dog sledding. She she is hoping that that you don't say, oh, we did for we're done because this this girl, honestly, there were tears shed and there was there was emotional. trauma is not the right word, but but there was, there was morning. There was morning when she realized that, with the scheduling, she was going to be, you know, we were going to be on business across the country we were in.

00:10:28:18 - 00:10:45:03 Seth That was that when we were in Nashville? I think so. And she was not going to get to go on this dog sledding trip, she said, she said, I've been waiting for this trip. So it will be it will be magical for this lady when it happens next year.

00:10:45:05 - 00:10:55:17 Brittany So like, if I do it, then you're coming. If I don't do it, then I didn't not give you the information. You guys should go take your girls. Yeah, yeah, we.

00:10:55:17 - 00:11:05:08 Seth Could do that too. I think she should go with you first. That way. That way you can get all the peeing of the pants done, and we can go and just get that business done when we're there.

00:11:05:10 - 00:11:07:13 Brittany That's fair. That's.

00:11:07:15 - 00:11:12:23 Stephanie I think any retreat that I could go on with you and the other women, though, I think will be absolutely incredible.

00:11:13:05 - 00:11:16:03 Brittany So, yeah, you would add a lot of value to us. So I hope you come.

00:11:16:06 - 00:11:18:02 Stephanie Thank you I appreciate that.

00:11:18:05 - 00:11:30:13 Seth So I want to go to the cold hard part like the the dog sledding itself. Like take us through this. Where were you? What was it like? Like how easy was it like, you know, how hard was it?

00:11:30:18 - 00:11:50:16 Brittany Oh, it was a piece of cake. It was awesome. So we had a guide company who they have over 200 dogs that they keep at their kennel, and they rotate the dogs and they, the dogs are living their best life like they really do treat the dogs, like kings and queens. They have a really amazing diet that they like.

00:11:50:16 - 00:12:09:21 Brittany They show you and walk you through everything. So you can you can see how everything's, handled at the they call it a kennel. The dogs all have guides is what we call them. They have it like a trainer in charge of 20 dogs, and they rotate the dogs. And there are certain dogs that can be next to each other, and dogs who can't be next.

00:12:09:21 - 00:12:24:03 Brittany They can't even be on the same team. And there's certain dogs that are good at leading and some dogs that are good in the middle, some good dogs that are good at like keeping them, you know, because they they try to stay on the it's like driving a car, like you stay on the, you know, the right side of the trail.

00:12:24:05 - 00:12:26:21 Seth Are you talking about dogs? Are you talking about kids?

00:12:26:23 - 00:12:28:10 Brittany I like any of those.

00:12:28:13 - 00:12:36:23 Seth Dogs that you can't put next to each other and like, one dog barking to another dog. Are you, are you, are you are you breathing my air kind of dogs.

00:12:37:01 - 00:13:01:02 Brittany So dogs are a lot like kids turns out. Yeah, it's it's fun. So each sled has about 12 to 14 dogs. And then you have a sled, you have two sleds attached to those, those 12 to 14 dogs. And you have two women on each sled. And you just kind of hop back and forth. So one woman gets to ride in the sled and like, be bundled up with a blanket and everything and just sit and enjoy and look around.

00:13:01:04 - 00:13:20:06 Brittany and then the other woman is standing up driving the sled, and it's it's awesome. It's so fun. So it's it's really easy. You have a guide on each sled. And so the guide helps you steer and, you know, teaches you how to drive it. And, and then so you, you you ride the, the sleds to hot springs.

00:13:20:06 - 00:13:46:04 Brittany It's called granite hot springs. And in the winter you can only get there by snowmobile or dog sled. And it's just these natural giant hot springs that fill up every single day and then train every single day. And they have changing rooms. And then while you're soaking, the guides are making you a hot lunch. You know, get out and change back into your snow clothes, go eat your amazing hot lunch, and then you dog sled back.

00:13:46:04 - 00:13:50:15 Brittany It's it's like the perfect day. Sounds like a little.

00:13:50:15 - 00:13:53:18 Seth Bit of heart a little bit a little bit of pampering, right?

00:13:53:18 - 00:13:59:12 Brittany Yeah, yeah, a lot of pampering. A lot of pampering. A lot of adventure.

00:13:59:13 - 00:14:06:05 Stephanie Oh, I love it. And I saw that, you did another. Was that a headstand in your sled?

00:14:06:07 - 00:14:14:04 Brittany Yeah. Yeah, I started that a couple years ago. I was like, okay, now my thing is to do a head, a headstand in the in the sled. So that's.

00:14:14:06 - 00:14:14:19 Stephanie I love the way.

00:14:14:19 - 00:14:15:07 Brittany To be smiling.

00:14:15:07 - 00:14:25:10 Stephanie So yeah, I was like, oh, I'm going to do a headstand with her. So when I go, whether it's with you or not, I will do a headstand and hand it to you.

00:14:25:12 - 00:14:26:22 Brittany Perfect. I'll plan on it.

00:14:27:02 - 00:14:34:10 Seth Well, I'm just saying, hurry up, hurry up and do it, because otherwise I'm just going to take her anyway. I mean, I mean, I know that's I know, I know, that's no offense to you, but it sounds amazing.

00:14:34:12 - 00:14:53:14 Brittany Yeah, it is, it is amazing. It's it's such a good experience and the guiding company that we go with, they even provide you with boots that go down to like -30 degrees so that you can stay warm. And it's just the best experience. It's so well taken care of and well thought out that it.

00:14:53:16 - 00:14:55:08 Seth And where where was this.

00:14:55:10 - 00:14:58:10 Brittany So it's just outside Jackson Hole, Wyoming okay.

00:14:58:15 - 00:15:00:11 Seth And you went in March.

00:15:00:12 - 00:15:15:15 Brittany And there was still plenty of snow. We actually had perfect weather this time. I've been in January, February and now March and March was was probably my my favorite because it was sunny. but it was still cold and there is still plenty of snow, so it worked out pretty great.

00:15:15:18 - 00:15:20:21 Seth What's the name of the guide company? Just so everybody listening can go hurry and book that right now.

00:15:20:23 - 00:15:24:02 Brittany It's their Jackson Hole. I did a rod.

00:15:24:04 - 00:15:29:07 Seth And I was thinking I the whole word has been in the back of my mind is I don't know why I did it. Right. There it.

00:15:29:07 - 00:15:34:18 Brittany Is. Yes yes yes absolutely. Okay okay.

00:15:34:19 - 00:15:37:23 Stephanie I wasn't sure if you're just trying to be funny.

00:15:38:00 - 00:15:42:06 Seth No, no, seriously, I was thinking I did a rod.

00:15:42:07 - 00:15:43:05 Brittany Awesome.

00:15:43:06 - 00:16:03:08 Seth I can't wait. Sounds. That sounds amazing. And we love hot springs. of course Steph will do a headstand or some sort of yoga pose, because wherever we go. Last week's episode, by the way, was on yoga, right? Hot yoga, acro yoga, whatever. Everywhere we go, you know, we're we're in we're in the glaciers of Alaska and she's pulling out yoga poses.

00:16:03:10 - 00:16:04:17 Brittany That's awesome.

00:16:04:19 - 00:16:07:01 Stephanie To. Have you ever tried yoga? Really?

00:16:07:03 - 00:16:23:06 Brittany Yeah. My gym does yoga on Wednesdays. I try to make that one possible. It's not a long. It's just like at the end of the workout classes, they spend 20 minutes doing it. And I always say I need more in my life. And one of these days I'll add more than that. But for now, that's pretty great.

00:16:23:11 - 00:16:28:18 Stephanie Well, I will, I will have to say, if your husband's up for it, partner. Yoga is out of this world.

00:16:28:20 - 00:16:47:21 Seth Oh, no, no, it is truly amazing you're talking to. You're talking to a gentleman. I'm going through the conversion process to become a Yogi. when we got married, she was already into yoga. I had done yoga over the years here and there, but pretty much done more not than doing it. but intuitively, I know it's something super good for me.

00:16:47:23 - 00:17:09:18 Seth It's kind of one of those things, you know, it's kind of like brussel sprouts for people or broccoli, you know, or liver. Right? Or as our little six year old calls it, livered. You want to I don't want any livered. but but I made it. I made a goal just kind of out of the blue. I didn't even tell Steph, because yoga has been on my.

00:17:09:20 - 00:17:25:19 Seth You need to incorporate this into your life over the last year, year and a half, you know, and I've been super active in some of the other areas, my athletics side of my life and my weight training. But I kind of left that that yoga piece off conveniently.

00:17:25:21 - 00:17:26:19 Brittany

00:17:26:21 - 00:17:27:17 Seth And then.

00:17:27:19 - 00:17:44:13 Stephanie except for that one day. So for date night, we like to switch, like, who plans it. And so sometimes, you know, I do things that I normally wouldn't do because he planned it or vice versa. And so I was like, we're doing yoga tonight. And that was that was quite an experience for him.

00:17:44:15 - 00:18:08:16 Seth Yeah. Acro yoga like that's called acrobatic yoga. Basically. Imagine doing the hardest things you've ever done with balance with somebody on top. You're holding up who can fall and smash you. Not that you're smashing quality, but I mean, you're, you know, just it's called gravity. torque calf strains, muscle strains, know pulling quads, I mean, all kinds of danger in tights.

00:18:08:20 - 00:18:10:11 Seth Right? I wore shorts over.

00:18:10:13 - 00:18:10:22 Stephanie That's funny.

00:18:10:22 - 00:18:32:11 Brittany My husband and I did it probably 14 years ago when we lived in DC. We went to, like a silks class. Trapeze class. And part of the class was the acro yoga. And so we have a couple pictures of us doing the vault, and we were awful and we laughed so hard. It was I feel like part of it was an ab workout from laughing.

00:18:32:13 - 00:18:34:20 Stephanie So that's why, you know, it's the best.

00:18:34:22 - 00:18:36:16 Brittany You had a good time.

00:18:36:18 - 00:18:51:16 Seth But I will say that was one of the best dates we've ever done. Like I walked out of there, super pumped. We had a great instructor. We had one on one, well, one on two and, you know, help and coached us through. And we you know, we made it. You know we made it happen. I can't wait to go back actually and do it again.

00:18:51:16 - 00:19:07:12 Seth I can't believe it's been that long. But I was going to say that I made a commitment and we are on day. What's even we're three 4445 today. 46 I've done today will be day 46 straight of at least, you know, a yoga session every single day that I've done.

00:19:07:13 - 00:19:10:00 Brittany Wow. And I think.

00:19:10:02 - 00:19:10:08 Stephanie I.

00:19:10:08 - 00:19:34:06 Seth Know, I'm, I'm just I'm loving it so much. So much. It's it is way more than I thought it would be for me. yeah, it's it's it's been cool. We've done a lot of them together. but but whether we're together or not, like, every single day, everybody in this house knows that dad is going to dedicate some time to breathing, meditation, yoga, balance, stretching.

00:19:34:06 - 00:19:43:05 Seth You know, it's not long. 10 minutes to 20 minutes, right? It's. But it's every single day. And it is it, man. It makes me feel amazing.

00:19:43:07 - 00:19:48:09 Brittany Good job. Congratulations. That's awesome. 46 days is. That's that's impressive.

00:19:48:11 - 00:19:53:04 Stephanie It really is. I've never done it that long. So now I'm like, oh, what do I want to do for 100 days.

00:19:53:10 - 00:20:01:16 Seth As you've done these, you you got a backpacking retreat coming up in July. You're going to be going back country. I mean, you're high, you're hiking 30 miles. Is that what I heard?

00:20:01:18 - 00:20:06:19 Brittany Yeah, we're going in Teton National Park. Oh my goodness.

00:20:06:21 - 00:20:08:05 Seth The Tetons are amazing.

00:20:08:11 - 00:20:17:10 Brittany It's one of my favorite places on the planet. It reminds me a lot of Switzerland. And it's just everywhere you look, it's beauty full.

00:20:17:12 - 00:20:26:01 Seth So you're going to 30 miles. Like, walk us through the trip. You have guides who are carrying your backpacks for you. Do you have dogs carrying your backpacks for you?

00:20:26:03 - 00:20:29:22 Brittany Unless Stephanie wants to bring you home.

00:20:30:00 - 00:20:33:23 Seth I'll bring the horses. I'll bring the horses. You know, I'll bring a pack train.

00:20:34:01 - 00:20:55:07 Brittany Right? No, we carry our packs. Your pack will weigh between 30 and 40 pounds, so it's pretty heavy. but the good news is you only have to carry that, the first, like, nine miles in. And then we set up camp, and we'll stay at that camp the rest of the the days. So then for the remaining hikes, we just we'll carry a small day pack.

00:20:55:07 - 00:21:24:23 Brittany So that's just, you know, your water and a couple snacks in it. And then the last day, the third day, then we'll, you know, take down camp and then have to carry that 40 pound pack nine miles out. But it's it's a lot of miles. But it's, it's the amount of miles that makes you feel accomplished. Like you're proud of yourself after after those hikes, especially the second day, we we hike up to Hurricane Ridge, which is the top part that you can actually hike to without, like canyoneering gear and that kind of stuff.

00:21:25:01 - 00:21:43:16 Brittany And it's just this like flat ridge that has the three Tetons in a picturesque place where, you know, we all take our jumping photo there, and it's like, I went to the Tetons and, and that's a, that's a tricky that's a tricky longer hike. And when you get to the top of that ridge, you're like, wow. Like you're proud.

00:21:43:18 - 00:21:56:12 Brittany and I think that's one of the crowning moments on the retreat is that Hurricane Ridge. But all of the hikes are beautiful. And, so I think the most that we'll do in one day is probably 11 miles.

00:21:56:14 - 00:22:10:22 Seth And so what are your what what's the chow? What's the chow wagon look like? You're eating, you know, dehydrated. Oh, our freeze dried foods. Kind of a thing. Like you're taking your little your little gas stoves, your little hyper lights and.

00:22:11:00 - 00:22:34:03 Brittany Yeah, yeah, balls and all the women are packing list, and that's what it will include, the dehydrated meals and, you know, your little, little camp stove type of thing. And just as light as you can bring, bring a water filter so that you don't have to carry water for four days, but you can just fill it up in the stream in the water and replenish that, and then just need snacks and candy that you want.

00:22:34:05 - 00:22:50:21 Brittany It's nice if you bring a buddy, then you can share your tent with, and then kind of split the tent weight between your two packs. Somebody can carry that tent, somebody can carry the poles, and then you can share like those dehydrated meals. Some of them are pretty big for one person. And so that can cut down on your weight.

00:22:50:21 - 00:23:00:23 Brittany And just like little tips and tricks like that, if you want to spread your weight out. But otherwise, like I've gone before where I've carried everything and and it's totally doable.

00:23:01:01 - 00:23:04:02 Stephanie Brittany, what are you most passionate about right now?

00:23:04:04 - 00:23:32:13 Brittany Right now I'm most passionate about self-compassion. I have spent a lot of time focusing on getting women outside and adventuring outdoors, and that is definitely one of the pillars of get Out There Girl. And what I. I still will continue to yell from the rooftops, but I wrote a workbook a couple years ago about self-compassion, and as I've sold, you know, hundreds of copies, I've I've heard the feedback from women and how life changing it is.

00:23:32:15 - 00:23:53:05 Brittany And so I wanted to get it in the hands of more women. And so recently I made videos. So I turned it into an online course instead of just a workbook. And that was it was hard for me because I was scared of getting behind the camera and and making videos. And so for years I wanted to do it.

00:23:53:05 - 00:24:16:12 Brittany And I've known I needed to do it, but it just took me getting over that fear and being like, I'm just going to go for it. And so getting that done, is pretty exciting for me. And to be able to offer that avenue to women so that they can do it at their pace, and have me actually sit down and guide them instead of just doing it alone with a workbook.

00:24:16:12 - 00:24:37:15 Brittany You know, I'm really excited to kind of hold women's hands and, and guide them through that and, and to actually start doing some coaching calls with the women who sign up for the course. That's going to be part of it, too. So anyway, I'm just really excited to to up my self-compassion game and, and reaching more women and teaching more women that skill.

00:24:37:17 - 00:24:39:18 Brittany That is completely transformative.

00:24:39:21 - 00:25:05:10 Stephanie Yeah, I've enjoyed watching, little snippets of you doing it. Also, just seeing the different content that you put out there on Instagram is where I follow you. Just how how I resonate with a lot of them and how it's really helped me to have more self-compassion for myself and makes me want to go. And I tell other people about it, or I send it to them and, you know, let them know how amazing they are and how amazing you are and and how this could really help help them and benefit their life.

00:25:05:12 - 00:25:27:07 Brittany Oh, thanks for sharing. I, I think every, every human need self-compassion. There are times when I tell my husband like, you need it. And my teen daughter the other day, I was like, Kelly, it's like, let's, let's talk about some self-compassion right now. So I think, I think every human needs it. I've just been focusing, specifically on women at this point.

00:25:27:09 - 00:25:30:05 Stephanie Well, I'm really excited. have you launched that yet?

00:25:30:10 - 00:25:37:21 Brittany No, I haven't, I'm just getting been getting the final details and tweaks and everything on the website, but it's close.

00:25:37:23 - 00:25:50:13 Seth What is the website? Where can people find that? pardon me? Where can women who are going to get self-compassion? going to go? And where are men who don't really actually offer as much self-compassion as they should not go?

00:25:50:16 - 00:25:55:05 Brittany So it's get out there girl.com and it'll it'll live there.

00:25:55:07 - 00:26:05:00 Seth Where did this originate? Like why like where's this? See, we're looking at the fruit here. We're looking at the tree growing and your nurturing. But where did where where the seed come from?

00:26:05:06 - 00:26:42:13 Brittany I grew up severely. I say severely competitive person because my competitive nature actually got in the way a lot. Instead of aiding me and and helping me be successful. It was to the point where if I if I didn't win, then I beat myself up and I saw it as a bad thing. And so my competitive nature took a bad turn, I guess I would say I wanted to be successful, I wanted to be high achieving, and I thought that I had to pick myself apart and be hard on myself in order to motivate myself to to reach my goals and to be a successful high achiever.

00:26:42:15 - 00:27:11:01 Brittany And so I just developed that inner critical voice where everything I did wasn't good enough, and I and it was all in the sake of motivation. And it wasn't until I had my third baby and I sunk into postpartum depression. I wish I had had my hormones checked after her, knowing what I know now, but I'm I'm positive my hormones turned off and I sunk.

00:27:11:03 - 00:27:29:04 Brittany It's a good word to describe it and I got suicidal. I thought that the world would be better without me. I, I thought that I couldn't do it anymore. The pain was so severe that I was just like, I'm tired of fighting and I'm tired of losing this battle, and I just don't think I can do it anymore.

00:27:29:06 - 00:27:55:11 Brittany And when I shared that with my husband, he he was shocked. He knew that I had been depressed, but he didn't know that I was having those type of thoughts. And so he urged me to get help. I saw a therapist and after, you know, talking her through where my mind was mentally and, you know, throughout my life and kind of sharing my story with her, she was like, Brittany, I think you should learn something called self-compassion.

00:27:55:11 - 00:28:14:02 Brittany And I was like, was that she gave me a book and it's called Self-compassion by Kristin F. It's a fabulous book that I recommend to everybody. And at first, when she was telling me about it and how it meant, you know, I treated myself like a good friend, and I was kind to myself, and I, I wasn't harsh or critical.

00:28:14:02 - 00:28:21:05 Brittany I was like, that's not going to work. Like, there's no way. That's just fluff. That's like a participation trophy.

00:28:21:07 - 00:28:25:11 Seth The competitors coming out right now, you're like, give me a break. You know, I.

00:28:25:11 - 00:28:41:14 Brittany Really did like, I, I just kind of laughed at her and I was like, I don't I don't think that's going to work. That's not for me. I'm not going to pat myself on the back when I don't deserve it. And she was patient with me and she was like, just try it, read the book and try it and see.

00:28:41:16 - 00:29:07:12 Brittany See what the results are. And so I told her I would give it a chance. And I read the book and had several eye opening experiences while reading that book and started trying it. And it was amazing to me the results and how quickly the results happened. It was like immediately it wasn't natural to talk to myself in that kind of way, but when I did, I immediately reaped the benefits.

00:29:07:14 - 00:29:31:19 Brittany And so it was like, I just like this morning, actually, I had the thought of, you know, Instagram, Instagram for me has kind of been a struggle lately. And so in the shower and, you know, thinking about everything that I have to do and on my Instagram and how I haven't been growing and, and how I hate posting reels and, and all of these different things.

00:29:31:19 - 00:29:51:09 Brittany And I just started being critical, like, I should be at this size by now, I should be at this many followers or at all this effort that I put in. And it hasn't been going. And just like thing after thing after thing, I'm just, you know, kind of belittling myself and the progress that I've made. And as soon as I recognized that I was doing that, I was like, wait, Brittany?

00:29:51:11 - 00:30:10:00 Brittany Like, give yourself some credit. You know nothing about Instagram. You're learning as you go. You're doing it by yourself, like you've actually come a long way. Think about all the things that you've learned and the progress that you've made, and give yourself some credit for that. And then stop. Like you don't need to go anywhere further than you don't need to take the conversation further than that.

00:30:10:02 - 00:30:38:03 Brittany and as soon as I did it, my shoulders dropped, my body relaxed, my mind cleared, I got some peace, and I was like, that feels true. And that's actually also motivating for me to continue to improve. When you belittle yourself, it pushes you down. And so you can't succeed. You think that being critical is, you know, a harmless crime that doesn't affect anybody else since it's only affecting you.

00:30:38:03 - 00:31:00:18 Brittany And so it doesn't matter and it's innocent. But the truth is it it affects it affects you and it affects all of your relationships. And as soon as you start being kind to yourself, it's actually incredibly motivating. And it's the true motivation that gets you to achieve those, those high goals and gets you to be successful. And you honestly can't be successful without it.

00:31:00:18 - 00:31:25:18 Brittany Not long term. You might hit a few goals here and there, but it'll it'll come in at some point. You won't have the stamina to keep up unless you're kind. And so back to my story of how I started. I started realizing all of this and started seeing the the effects of it and was blown away. And so I, I tried to learn everything I could from that point on about self-compassion.

00:31:25:19 - 00:31:50:23 Brittany And so that was ten years ago. I just started, you know, reading everything, listening to everything. And several years ago, it was it just came to me. It was like I should create, like a condensed workbook to help women start their journey of self-compassion, because you can read a book, you know, and it's it's thick and, you know, got to put some effort into it and stay with it.

00:31:50:23 - 00:32:17:07 Brittany But I thought if I could make a digestible workbook that gets women to learn the principles of self-compassion, but also, like, guides them through uncovering their own critical voice and gets them to start recognizing it. Because most of the time we're so busy we don't even recognize when we're being mean to ourselves. You don't even recognize it. And when you start recognizing it, you're like, Holy cow!

00:32:17:07 - 00:32:42:03 Brittany It's actually, I mean myself a lot like it's several times a day. And and so that's that was the goal behind the Self-compassion workbook. Put everything that I knew in it, put all the resources that I had learned from in the book, and then create journal opportunities and prompts and different things for women to understand themselves. And I truly felt guided with it.

00:32:42:03 - 00:33:16:00 Brittany Like, I know that sounds kind of silly, but it's something that I'm really proud of and grateful that I pushed through. And when I doubted myself and I was like, oh my, to put together a workbook like I just learned about this, you know, five years ago, why would I write a book? But I feel like if I can help somebody else learn what I've learned and to have the same transformation that I have had, then it's worth all the blood, sweat and tears that I've put into it and and putting myself out there and, you know, being vulnerable in this way and sharing my story.

00:33:16:05 - 00:33:18:16 Brittany I hope it helps. I hope it helps somebody else.

00:33:18:18 - 00:33:32:12 Stephanie I actually bought your book and I'm excited to dive into it and I so when you launched this new program, are you going to have a workbook or are they going to do the workbook and have the online or how is that going to work?

00:33:32:12 - 00:33:53:06 Brittany Yes, yes. So how it works is you can get the workbook in a PDF version so you could print it off yourself, or you can have like I have one sitting right here. You can have me send you one that's already printed out. And and then what it will do is it'll have a video for each day of me walking you through it.

00:33:53:08 - 00:34:19:20 Brittany I share a lot of my story in the workbook already, and so I just add more like recent stories and more experiences that I've had. And so it's kind of just like me walking you through the workbook, essentially. So you'll still do everything in the workbook the 15 days, but you'll just have me in the video holding your hand while you journal and and while you, you know, read through everything and and complete it.

00:34:19:22 - 00:34:39:23 Stephanie I love that you're doing that, but you're adding that piece. Like, for me, I, I have a hard time reading books in general. And then, also going through it is a little hard for me knowing that I'm going to have that personal touch of you walking me through it and having other stories to go along with that I think will add a lot to it.

00:34:40:01 - 00:35:02:10 Brittany Good, good. another part of the course will be coaching sessions with me, group coaching, coaching sessions so that, you know, if you get hung up on anything, then you could join me on a call and and we'll walk through and you can, you know, tell me an experience that you're going through right now and I can, you know, help you apply the the principles of self-compassion to that specific instance.

00:35:02:10 - 00:35:10:02 Brittany And you can hear from other women and what they're going through. And, and so I'm really excited to add that portion to the workbook as well.

00:35:10:04 - 00:35:13:18 Stephanie Yeah, I'm really excited.

00:35:13:19 - 00:35:47:16 Seth When I think one of the most powerful numbers I've ever seen, stats coming out of the business world or out of, the social side of our lives is is regarding women. Is this that women are 68% more likely to achieve their goals when they have community, community. And, and I could probably, you know, I'll add live there and coaching, you know, but that that's exciting literally as you were taking us through the story, I super keyed in on the competitive side.

00:35:47:18 - 00:35:51:07 Seth you know, I could spot that, because that's me, right? That that.

00:35:51:08 - 00:35:52:06 Brittany Is that.

00:35:52:08 - 00:35:53:04 Seth Me?

00:35:53:06 - 00:36:09:08 Stephanie Oh, my goodness. He'll go out on the field with, like, I don't know, a bunch of, you know, teenagers or young adults, and you can't tell that he's going to be 50 this year because he is so competitive and he's really good. It's amazing.

00:36:09:10 - 00:36:27:19 Seth I that's how I've grown up. But you you talk about you talk about being critical of yourself. You know, I think about coaches growing up. You know, I think I was a coach, and I coached I coached basketball for a decade and a half through all our kids to other rec leagues and and loved it. I was not that I was not that critical coach.

00:36:27:19 - 00:36:56:14 Seth I was I was actually I was the compassionate coach for my team, not for the refs. And I, I dare say that, I don't know, I don't there aren't 10% of the refs that that don't have bad feelings toward me because I was very vocal about about, about our I bad our stance, but I just I can really relate, I guess is what I'm saying to the competitive side and the, the picking out what's wrong so you can improve outside.

00:36:56:14 - 00:37:17:06 Seth Right? I mean, that's that's not all rooted in, in, negativity or, or misplaced, but it can be very detracting to one's soul. And so as you're walking me through this and I'm listening to the story, and then when you talked about when you applied some self-compassion, I was going to ask you, what are some of the principles?

00:37:17:06 - 00:37:25:19 Seth How do how, how do you apply this? And you walked us through, I honestly like I felt a release. I felt like,

00:37:25:21 - 00:37:26:22 Brittany Wow.

00:37:27:00 - 00:37:46:14 Seth That that that feels good. And if it feels good, guess what? If it feels good and is good, you're going to want to do one more of that. And all of a sudden you got better. So it is it is super helpful for competitive people because they can cycle up faster and get better so they can go out and win.

00:37:46:16 - 00:37:49:10 Seth Let's not forget what it's about, all right? No.

00:37:49:10 - 00:37:50:11 Brittany But whatever.

00:37:50:11 - 00:38:12:08 Seth But you talked about the sustainability like sustainability of success or significance. You know, making a difference. Forget about how skilled you are if you're not happy, if you don't love you. Then then we really have missed the mark.

00:38:12:10 - 00:38:36:16 Brittany yeah. Women walk around stressed and anxious and feeling like they're not enough and they need to do more, and but they don't know how they're going to fit in more because they're already doing so much. And so when you walk around with that all day, every day, it's it's exhausting. And when you think about, you know, setting a new goal and reaching a new goal, it's like, I don't know if I have it in me.

00:38:36:16 - 00:39:03:00 Brittany But when you apply self-compassion, then suddenly it's like, oh no, I can. And because you're not so scared of failure, there's a quote in my book by Tara Brock, and it's kind of the quote that made it all click for me. And it was self-compassion doesn't release us from the responsibility of our actions, rather, it releases us from the self-hatred that keeps us from responding to our life with clarity.

00:39:03:02 - 00:39:28:17 Brittany And I feel like that's exactly what self-compassion does. It doesn't mean, like you're patting yourself on the back and thinking, it's okay that I yelled at my kids, I'm human. It's okay that I failed at my goal. I'm human. It's not possible. You know? It's it's okay. No. Instead, you take a step back and you're able to see yourself clearly, and then you're able to to actually take responsibility for what you did.

00:39:28:19 - 00:39:41:15 Brittany And this is an example that I've been thinking about a lot lately with your kids saying you you yell at your kids. Usually it's one of two responses. Seth's face right now yell yelling to yell at your kids. I know it.

00:39:41:17 - 00:39:44:00 Seth Yelling at your kids does that.

00:39:44:02 - 00:40:05:01 Brittany So usually it's like one of two responses, right? You think my kids are so naughty? They're so bad they're driving me nuts. I wish they would just obey and, you know, be peaceful and kind and stop fighting with each other. So you blame the kids in some shape or form, right? Or you blame yourself. You're like, I'm not.

00:40:05:03 - 00:40:24:14 Brittany If I was a better mom, I wouldn't have lost my temper right now. If I was a better mom, they wouldn't be seeking out this attention. And, you know, an unhealthy ways, and they wouldn't be fighting because they would have more mom time or whatever it is. Their shame enters because you blame yourself. So you either blame your kids or you blame yourself.

00:40:24:16 - 00:40:49:13 Brittany But when you apply self-compassion, you actually pull yourself back. You look at yourself as a human and you're like, oh no, actually, I lost my temper on my kids because of a. And today, no wonder I lost my temper. That like all of the emotions that I'm feeling, it just like I didn't deal with them today, they just kind of stacked on top of each other.

00:40:49:13 - 00:41:08:08 Brittany Today has been really hard because of this, this and this. They've been fighting all day. I tried three times to be nice to him. Anyway, you just step back and you like, look at it like you would be looking at your best friend in that situation. And then you respond with clarity, like that quote that I just mentioned.

00:41:08:10 - 00:41:28:07 Brittany And then you're like, okay, now I know what I need to do to not have that happen again. You can take responsibility. I'm going to go apologize to my kids for losing my temper. That wasn't cool. And they didn't mean that didn't serve a purpose, right? That didn't help the situation. Me losing my temper. So I'm going to go apologize to them.

00:41:28:09 - 00:41:46:02 Brittany And I'm also going to apologize to myself for letting myself get to the point where I lost it. And I'm going to look at the steps that got me there. And I'm going to I'm going to set some goals and to not repeat that again. And it's all just like this level calm, peaceful, like shoulders are down, right?

00:41:46:04 - 00:42:16:17 Brittany You're giving yourself some grace. You're giving yourself some compassion. And it's just diffusing the situation. When you take shame out of the equation, you can actually take accountability. Shame prohibits us from taking accountability from things. And so when you take that shame out and you just see yourself as a human that's not capable of perfection and that you're going to slip up sometimes and make some mistakes, and you're actually able to uncover those mistakes and figure out how you made that mistake, and then you're able to fix it.

00:42:16:17 - 00:42:27:13 Brittany And that's how you reach your long term goals. If one of your goals is to yell at your kids less, that's how you get there is by looking at yourself and looking at the big picture and taking that whole thing in.

00:42:27:15 - 00:42:47:08 Stephanie I love how you said if you look at yourself like a best friend, and to give yourself that self-compassion that reminded me of a retreat I went on. It was actually for a trauma, a trauma retreat, and she had us bring a picture of ourselves when we were a little girl. And I seriously was like, why this is so interesting?

00:42:47:13 - 00:43:05:07 Stephanie I'd been on one of her retreats before too, so I'm like, hey, this is totally different than what she's done before. She had us pull it out and she well, actually, I think before she was pull it out, she, she said, you know, what are some things you've said to yourself today that probably weren't kind and then she said, okay, now I want you to pull out that picture of that little girl.

00:43:05:07 - 00:43:12:02 Stephanie Can you say those things to that little girl? And we all like, even just, you know, coming up with emotion.

00:43:12:02 - 00:43:14:01 Brittany Like, well, of.

00:43:14:01 - 00:43:14:11 Stephanie Course I.

00:43:14:11 - 00:43:16:00 Brittany Can't.

00:43:16:02 - 00:43:23:19 Stephanie And that really helps me to look at myself as that little girl that still needs that love and that compassion from myself.

00:43:23:21 - 00:43:46:04 Brittany Yeah, yeah. When you put it, when you see it that clear, you're like, why would I talk to myself that way? Like, how do I let myself do it? Because but we do. We all participate in it. We all have critical voices. And I love that. I might I might steal that stuff. That's how I do it. That's pretty good.

00:43:46:06 - 00:44:04:10 Stephanie It was it was very powerful. And to see you know, like, you know, I'm sitting there like in tears. And then I look up and I'm like, oh yeah. So is everybody else. Like, I mean, we all just ended up like sobbing, thinking of all the, the things that we've said to ourselves and, and how we need to do better for that little girl.

00:44:04:12 - 00:44:16:23 Stephanie And sometimes even, you know, in my day to day life, all I have actually never said this to you. But sometimes I'll when I start doing that, I think of, oh, wait, is that something I would tell that little girl? And I remember that picture that I had of myself.

00:44:17:00 - 00:44:18:18 Brittany Yeah, it's very powerful.

00:44:18:20 - 00:44:41:20 Seth The word that keeps coming to my mind is awareness. Becoming self-aware, recognizing yourself in this situation right as you're evaluating your day and saying, I did this in this way. And I think awareness is being able to take a step back, right? And look at this situation from a different perspective. Right. And what hit me is you were talking about this and talking about being a parent.

00:44:41:22 - 00:44:50:19 Seth And, you know, I'm I'm the father of four incredible daughters.

00:44:50:21 - 00:45:17:00 Seth And when you, when you get locked into a situation or you start sliding down a hill, right, an emotion, a little, a little emotional downhill slide, you kind of forget that perspective. And I was just imagining, you know, I'm thinking about my beautiful girls here. Could I ever some sometime you're talking about yelling at your kids or whatever.

00:45:17:03 - 00:45:47:06 Seth Or you know, you could lose your patience with the kids because. Because they don't deserve it, right? Because they're pushing every single one of their buttons of your buttons. But if I were to if I were just to look at my my daughter in the picture, right. Not as the person that's doing this, but the picture of her right now, it, you know, whatever you're whichever one I can't imagine can imagine saying that to her like, it just it gives me a different perspective on I'm being a dad.

00:45:47:06 - 00:46:10:21 Seth I've been I've been a dad for a long time, you know, going on I don't I don't know, almost 30 years, you know, 20, 20, 27, 20 years and striving to get better. I just I don't know, I just want to say things that's I, I feel like I have a little more clarity today about myself and about how I want to, you know, how I want to show up in the world.

00:46:10:23 - 00:46:12:23 Brittany Okay. Thank you. It makes me thank you.

00:46:12:23 - 00:46:24:10 Seth I may be I may be closet like listening to all these this videos. Seth, what are you doing? I'm doing my self-compassion course.

00:46:24:12 - 00:46:41:12 Brittany You can't. The principles in the workbook are completely for men to. They're just cause I just share my story as a as a mom and so like it works. As for teens, it works. You know, it works for anybody. I just share a lot of moms stories.

00:46:41:13 - 00:46:47:04 Seth I know some people who could use that. I'm starting with me. Starting out with me.

00:46:47:08 - 00:46:58:01 Stephanie Right. So, Brittany, as you've use these tools to coach women in with a growth mindset, how can you use these? And you know, when you have challenges?

00:46:58:03 - 00:47:21:10 Brittany Oh, man, I use them every day. I just an example from a couple weeks ago that I've I've been sharing is sometimes like I'll lose my, my cool with my husband or I'll get really irritated with him. Something that he does irritates me and I'm like trying to like not lash out at him. Right. And cause a fight between the two of us.

00:47:21:12 - 00:47:43:12 Brittany And so I'm like, trying to, to figure things out. So a few weeks ago, we got some news about, some friends getting divorced and a couple other hard things. I'm an empath, and so I was, like, taking it all on without realizing I was taking it all on and without acknowledging that it was actually heavy for me.

00:47:43:14 - 00:48:04:02 Brittany it was consuming my thoughts. I was trying to, like, make sense of it. And anyway, it was it was heavy for me, and I didn't acknowledge. I didn't take the time to acknowledge the weight that it was. It was putting on me and my husband. I came downstairs, we share an office. We share this office. This is my side and his sides over there.

00:48:04:04 - 00:48:05:14 Seth Does he have the same background?

00:48:05:16 - 00:48:26:12 Brittany No. Unfortunately. I think he would look really good with it though. Probably would anyway. IPI he. Then he had been on calls all morning and I peeked in to see if he was done and he was like, get out! And I was like, oh, how dare you like, talk to me that way? Like I was so offended. And he saw it was me.

00:48:26:12 - 00:48:46:18 Brittany And he was like, oh, sorry, but he's on the phone. So he's like, you know, like, sorry, you know? And so I went upstairs and I was like, how dare he like, I he's going to hear it like, I am so upset. You do not dismiss me like that. And so anyway. But I was like trying to control it and like, not make it ruin my day.

00:48:46:19 - 00:49:03:02 Brittany And I just. I blew it out of proportion really is the answer to it. So he got done with this call. He came and found me and was like, Brett, I'm so sorry. I totally thought you were one of the kids. The kids had already come in like five times while I was on this call. I told them to get out.

00:49:03:02 - 00:49:36:00 Brittany I thought you were them again. And so he's like, I'm sorry, I shouldn't have, like, you apologize. It was really sincere and cute. And I was just like, what? Like I was cold doing, like, sure, thanks. But I didn't like it. It didn't solve it for me. I was still irritable. I was still grumpy. And so I finally at that point, like, was like, I need to I need to take some time and go figure out what's, you know, I need to go be mindful and aware of what's going on inside of me, because I'm feeling a lot of tumult inside.

00:49:36:02 - 00:49:46:17 Brittany And so I went to my room, took some time, journaled. And I mean, time is in like ten minutes, right? I'm a busy mama. Five. I don't have that much time. So, you know, you know, ten minutes.

00:49:46:17 - 00:49:48:22 Seth It was a timeout or something.

00:49:49:00 - 00:50:11:17 Brittany How I did it was a timeout. And in that time I just like realized how much of other people's life trials and struggles I had been taking on and how I hadn't acknowledged that all, you know, for the past few weeks and once I acknowledge that, like I told you, it happened in the shower this morning, my shoulders dropped.

00:50:11:17 - 00:50:34:10 Brittany I just felt the peace come when I was like, oh, that's why Brittany, like, you're not really upset at Ben. Like he came and apologized for that. And it was an innocent mistake that I can totally see why he did and all of this, you know, jumble inside of me is actually from something else that now I'm addressing and, and processing.

00:50:34:10 - 00:50:57:01 Brittany And so I was able to go talk to my husband and say, hey, can I grab you for a snack? You apologized and it was so sincere, and I really appreciated that. I didn't accept it fully at the time, but I went and did some like, this is actually what's going on with me. I actually have been taking on our friends divorce and all of these other things, and I haven't.

00:50:57:01 - 00:51:15:01 Brittany I haven't been processing them and I and I've been taking too much of it on and blah, blah, blah. And he was wonderful. He held space for me. He listened as I explained, you know, the feelings. And he was like, that makes sense. That makes sense. And we were able to connect and have this, this wonderful moment between the two of us.

00:51:15:01 - 00:51:28:05 Brittany And it completely avoided a fight. Whereas if you if that would have happened 6 or 7 years ago, we would have fought. I just would have been quiet for the rest of the day. I would have kind of given the the silent tree.

00:51:28:06 - 00:51:28:16 Seth Silent.

00:51:28:16 - 00:51:47:14 Brittany Treatment. One word answers right, communicated when necessary. But I would have kept internalizing everything and I actually would have put the blame on him. I would have thought I'm just mad at him when really, once I learned the tool of self-compassion and awareness and mindfulness, I was able to back up and be like, he's actually he was the trigger.

00:51:47:16 - 00:52:09:02 Brittany But there was so much underneath it. And I we created this beautiful connecting experience out of that. And so that lesson has been something that I've repeated over and over again where I'm like, okay, I really am not fighting with my husband. Maybe I am sometimes, but, you know, 90% of the time it's actually not. He's just the trigger.

00:52:09:06 - 00:52:30:15 Brittany And the same thing is true for my kids. Like 90% of the time, they're just my trigger. But there's all these other things going on underneath it that once I acknowledge those other things and I'm like, man, I love my kids. I don't want to yell at them like they're the sweetest. And yeah, they're pesky sometimes. And don't listen the first five times that I tell them something.

00:52:30:15 - 00:52:43:17 Brittany But I love them, and I would never want them to, you know, to be scared of me and my yelling or different things like that. So anyway, that's one that's one recent example.

00:52:43:19 - 00:53:05:11 Seth That's beautiful. You were I think you mentioned, something an experience you had with a teenage daughter. This is not, you know, this is this is something like I said, this is for men. This is for this is for, of course, women. But this is probably pretty important that we take this and for ourselves so that we can actually teach our children, again, generational curses.

00:53:05:11 - 00:53:13:15 Seth Right. How can we how can we head off at the past? Some of the thing, some of the mistakes that we've made so our kids aren't going to go through those same things?

00:53:13:17 - 00:53:37:17 Brittany Yeah. I didn't realize the level of self-compassion that my daughter was not experiencing, the level of self-hatred that my daughter is experiencing. She's kind of a chameleon sometimes. She has my husband's crazy confidence, and then other times she has this self-doubt and self-hatred that I'm like, wait, where? Where did the confidence go? Like yesterday, you were so confident.

00:53:37:17 - 00:53:57:04 Brittany It was arrogant. And then now today, you're talking about hating yourself. I'm like, I can't keep up. So anyway, yeah, last week she has prom coming up, which is super exciting. But we we tried makeup and they weren't the right colors. And she felt ugly and she just let it sink her instead of using it as an experience.

00:53:57:05 - 00:54:12:09 Brittany Be like, okay, well I know what colors not to wear that I don't like because she doesn't wear a lot of makeup. And so we were just playing around, right, and testing things out. And it was a day that she didn't have anything else going on. You know, we could wash it all off with a washcloth. It wasn't a big deal.

00:54:12:11 - 00:54:32:01 Brittany But she let it be a big deal, and she let it sink her. And the tears started coming. And then the I'm ugly started coming. And, you know, all of the all of the things that you can imagine started coming. And it was it was for me. I was like, like, you need to see you as I see you out.

00:54:32:01 - 00:54:51:16 Brittany And I started talking to her like, what would you say to your best friend, your best friend, Presley? Like, you wouldn't say all of these things to her. She's like, no, because I'm not mean. And I'm like, exactly like, you're not mean. So why are you being mean to yourself? She's like, because I hate myself. I was like, well, let's work on that a little bit.

00:54:51:18 - 00:55:14:13 Brittany And so we had we had a long conversation about self-hatred and where, you know, where your confidence should come from. It shouldn't be the dress that you put on or the makeup that you put on it. It should come from inside. And knowing who you are and and you can't have that confidence if you're constantly beating yourself up and finding what's wrong about yourself.

00:55:14:15 - 00:55:39:01 Brittany So we're on a journey with her. We're starting. But I think teens teens are aren't. Except it's not just moms that need this or dads set. It's it's everybody. The teenagers. You know, life is hard in high school and junior high. I can't think of a, you know, a, Yeah, a worst petri dish to be in to try to figure out who you are.

00:55:39:01 - 00:55:47:00 Brittany And so if we can apply or teach the tool of self-compassion at that age can pay dividends and in their adult life.

00:55:47:02 - 00:55:56:09 Stephanie Have you thought about doing, you know, your workbook and the course, specifically do a group for teens or even like a mother daughter type of group?

00:55:56:11 - 00:56:19:08 Brittany Yep. Yeah, I would love that. The teen one. And even like we were talking about and joking with Seth for men, it doesn't like the principles, and the bare bones of the workbook will stay exactly the same. I think I just want to change a few of the personal stories that are in there to to speak to teenagers, more than because I talk about being a young mom a lot.

00:56:19:10 - 00:56:38:03 Brittany And so I think I just want to tweak a few of the story, so it won't take much to get it to be a teen friendly book. My teenager has done like I gave her the workbook. She hasn't finished it yet. And then I actually just gave one to a teenage girl last week or two weeks ago. and I'm excited for her to try it too.

00:56:38:03 - 00:56:46:08 Brittany So it's it's totally teen friendly, but it does. I do want to tweak a few stories just to make it better, if that makes sense.

00:56:46:10 - 00:56:52:01 Stephanie Oh, absolutely. But that will be really great. I know, our daughters could benefit from it.

00:56:52:06 - 00:57:11:15 Seth Well, I want these tools because obviously I know it'll help me and we all can improve in this. But I really see, you know, as we have these two younger girls, you know, at six and eight today, I want to be better equipped as a more compassionate father and a more understanding, you know, advisor and coach to them.

00:57:11:17 - 00:57:20:06 Seth because, you know, I feel like that like they're just because you, you know, because we have ten kids doesn't mean I know crap about parenting.

00:57:20:08 - 00:57:21:11 Brittany

00:57:21:12 - 00:57:43:13 Seth But you're not. You're not the same person raising these kids, and they're not any of your other kids. And, you know, I want to make sure that as I see their incredible strong personalities, you know, just to to help them be compassionate toward themselves when they're when those strong personalities run up to their weaknesses or the frustrations, you know, because you do.

00:57:43:14 - 00:58:02:17 Seth I see those I see those emotions coming out and some of that self-talk. Do you do affirmations? Is that something you've ever participated in or like? How do you do? How have you approached affirmation? That's something we we do personally. We do it in our family. We do it in our business. We actually we wish we that that was part of the van.

00:58:02:17 - 00:58:12:05 Seth The Van Muller family speakers was that Steph let out on that about about how you speak to yourself, you know.

00:58:12:07 - 00:58:34:05 Brittany Yeah. Yeah, I love affirmations. I believe in them wholeheartedly. I participate them and I do them every single day. I have a gratitude journal. That part of it is writing to affirmations out for myself. And it's interesting. Sometimes I stick with an affirmation for a week or a couple weeks, and then other times, you know, it changes daily and it's just kind of what I feel I need.

00:58:34:05 - 00:58:56:13 Brittany And it's it's pretty amazing. So I have in my workbook, there's a whole day that talks about like reframing my situation and then adding an affirmation at the end to it. And, and so I encourage everybody to, you know, come up. And actually when you're you're first learning about affirmations, sometimes it feels a little unnatural to tell yourself something.

00:58:56:13 - 00:59:16:16 Brittany And but if you go over, you're like, I don't know what affirmation I pick for myself. And so what I found is, if you have a list, you know of several, or if you brainstorm a list, or if you Google a list of affirmations and you just read through, you know, a list of them, one will speak to you, one will kind of hit your soul, and you'll be like, that's the one I need right now.

00:59:16:16 - 00:59:36:21 Brittany That's the one that speaks to me. That's the one that I need to repeat to myself, and then put it up somewhere where you can see it or write it down every day. But yeah, 100%. So that's one of the things with self-compassion is, you know, you are mindful, you're aware first of you catch yourself when you're speaking critically and then you're mindful.

00:59:37:03 - 00:59:49:01 Brittany You let yourself feel your emotions. You reframe and then you you said an affirmation to to kind of put yourself in a positive step forward, if that makes sense.

00:59:49:07 - 01:00:17:20 Stephanie Yeah. I've found that you know, over the years that I've done I am statements or affirmations that I sometimes I'll look at my day and I'll, I'll see like kind of ask myself, what do I need today? You know, if I know I'm doing a podcast, okay, how am I feeling about the podcast? What do I need to tell myself so that I can go into this hole and feeling great, or whatever is going on that day and leading out with that affirmation for the day, has really helped me.

01:00:17:22 - 01:00:40:06 Stephanie Something else that I learned, you know, I'd been doing affirmations for a really long time, and I was talking to a friend about it probably about a year ago, and she told me that she was just talking to her therapist the other day about this. And our therapist said to combine doing affirmations with a cold shower, because when you're doing the cold shower, you're rewiring your brain and you know, different things are going, it hurts.

01:00:40:06 - 01:00:43:08 Seth It's it's uncomfortable. It's it's like,

01:00:43:10 - 01:01:08:05 Stephanie And so she, she told my friend to say these affirmations while you're doing it. And then what it does is it helps your, your brain to pull those up when you're going through hard things. It just naturally comes. And I was like, oh, I hate cold water. I hate being cold at all. Like with a passion, I will say that I've, I have changed.

01:01:08:08 - 01:01:19:21 Stephanie I've been doing, you know, a lot of cold showers and doing cold plunging and things like that. And I've been super proud of myself getting up to, I think I was like 7 or 8 minutes up to my neck in, in freezing cold.

01:01:19:21 - 01:01:20:15 Seth Creek water.

01:01:20:19 - 01:01:23:06 Stephanie Creek water from the runoff of winter.

01:01:23:07 - 01:01:24:13 Brittany That's impressive.

01:01:24:15 - 01:01:42:15 Stephanie And I could have gone longer, but I started hurting like my wrist started cramping up and hurting like, okay, I think it's time to get out. And so I started doing that and doing the affirmations. And I really have noticed that it works, that those, those affirmations come up when they're needed. when I'm going through those hard times.

01:01:42:17 - 01:01:43:19 Brittany I love that.

01:01:43:21 - 01:02:09:15 Seth The neuroscience there is that when your brain encounters difficult things and I'm I'm just processing this for self-care, for self-compassion. Right. Creating new basically, you're creating new roads in your brain when you're compassionate with yourself that are way more effective than the current bumpy roads of what you've been doing. Right? And so when we're talking about affirmations, we're talking about doing affirmations.

01:02:09:15 - 01:02:35:12 Seth I am I am strong, I am warm, right? Well, the water is cold. I can do hard things when when we encounter hard things. I was just listening to this the other day because I love neuroscience and neuroplasticity. when you're doing something hard and, and you are encountered with the choice, you know, because I want to quit and you and you don't, you're basically building a new pathway or a bridge, right?

01:02:35:13 - 01:02:56:13 Seth to continue on. When you quit, when you encounter hard things, it's like there's a disconnect, there's a chasm. And so that the next time you come into a hard thing doesn't have to be the same thing, right? Doesn't have to be the same environment, same situation. Your brain says, oh, yeah, the road stopped here. It's okay. Right?

01:02:56:13 - 01:02:59:02 Seth There's a chasm here. I don't want to risk it.

01:02:59:05 - 01:02:59:18 Brittany That's bad.

01:02:59:22 - 01:03:31:02 Seth If you do it, you will build a bridge, you'll build a new road. And next time you come on that road, guess what? There's no toll. Do you just go right over? And that is the that is the successive and kind of cumulative compound interest, if you will, of, of neuroscience and, and changing your brain. and in this case honestly to be more self-compassion, that's what I'm literally so excited because just having a few tools.

01:03:31:04 - 01:03:37:18 Seth Right. Even just talking today about being aware and stepping back and and like I it's going to be easier next time.

01:03:37:19 - 01:03:57:17 Brittany Right? I found the affirmation that I use the most in my life is I am capable. And I took a mountain biking class last summer. My husband loves mountain biking. He's like, I think you would really love it. It's like hiking and biking, which you both love together. He's like, you need to try mountain bike. So I signed up for a women's course.

01:03:57:19 - 01:04:20:22 Brittany I was scared out of my mind. So nervous. Never been mountain, but well, I take the bike I did. I had gone mountain biking once and it was years ago. My husband took us to a course, I think it was in Provo. It was a hard course. He had no idea and sends us down it. I slip off, gouge my leg like blood everywhere and I'm like, it's okay kids, just try it.

01:04:20:22 - 01:04:39:21 Brittany Like the worst that could happen is you'll bleed like I was horrible. I was trying to be so tough for my kids anyway. So that's my previous experience with mountain biking, right? So I take this course and before, like on the drive up, I'm like, okay, I need an affirmation that I'm going to tell myself when I'm scared because I'm going to be scared.

01:04:39:21 - 01:04:57:20 Brittany I'm already scared before I even hop on the bike. And so my my affirmation was, I am capable. And I just said that over and over and over again. She's like, hey, go over this rock, go down this ditch and back up it. And I'm like, okay, I'm capable. Like, hold on for dear life. And go for it.

01:04:57:20 - 01:05:11:16 Brittany And it it changed it for me. It made it so that I was willing to take on a challenge and said it like, you know, when she was like, okay, you can go up over this rock or you can take this easy way and go around. And I was like, oh, I'm going over the rock because I am.

01:05:11:21 - 01:05:12:21 Seth I am capable.

01:05:12:23 - 01:05:34:02 Brittany And I'm capable. I can do this. And and so that's kind of been my my go to affirmation is just reminding myself how capable I am that I can do it. I can, I can try, I can, I can film, you know, workbook videos, I can write a book, I can, I can do whatever I want. If I try for it, I am capable.

01:05:34:04 - 01:05:57:04 Stephanie I love it. I'm actually shocked to hear that you're like, I had a fear of doing this video. I mean, like, I've I'm not one. It is so out of my comfort zone to do this podcast and I'm growing into it. I'm learning to like it. And, you know, I think it's that connection piece and the learning as I'm going, you know, all that I'm gaining from interviewing people, or having a conversation.

01:05:57:04 - 01:06:23:13 Stephanie Well, I've always struggled, you know, talking, I mean, even in you know, church and really society or, I, I have a hard time even making a comment. My heart will start racing. I get all sweaty, like I can barely breathe. So. So this has been really big and vulnerable for me to even do a podcast. And if it wasn't safe being like, hey, I really think we should do this, I, you know, I feel like God is asking us to do this.

01:06:23:15 - 01:06:53:15 Stephanie I probably wouldn't have. In fact, at the beginning I think I was like, no, no, I don't I don't think so. Like it doesn't sound fun, which is like my go to I love having fun. There had been times, you know, depending on who is our guest, that I'm like, that self-compassion has to come in because I'm like, well, you know, we'll take you, for example, you know, you've done a lot of filming and a lot of, you know, you're brave, the brave talk show, podcasts and, different things like that.

01:06:53:15 - 01:07:12:09 Stephanie So, you know, sometimes I find myself being like, well, you're just a greenie. You don't know what you're doing, but, you know, the guest that you're having on here has had so much experience. And so I have to pull myself back and say, well, at one point, I bet they were greenies, too, and have to, you know, give myself that self-compassion.

01:07:12:09 - 01:07:29:04 Stephanie And to know that, you know, if I continue to press forward, that I am going to grow and and do better and be more comfortable with it and myself and and being so vulnerable, I think is one of the biggest things for me is I can get vulnerable with just like a few people, maybe even a dozen.

01:07:29:06 - 01:07:47:02 Stephanie But like when there's, you know, I don't know, 50 people, it's like, oh, okay. Yeah, maybe I shouldn't say anything. You know, I'm I'm really surprised. And, it makes me feel a little better to know that, you know, you had some fear behind doing your, videoing for the workbook.

01:07:47:04 - 01:07:58:07 Brittany Yeah. It always requires some affirmations and building myself up, listening to a pump up song or something like that to, like, get me in the right headspace or I'm like, I can do this. Yes.

01:07:58:09 - 01:08:22:06 Seth I think that, you know, as we've worked with people literally all around the world and in the entrepreneurial setting, primarily for 20 years and, and, and having had created like a truly, way beyond average success. And people come to us to talk to us about that. Right. you become and it's like you I mean, like you are our pillar for self-compassion.

01:08:22:06 - 01:08:28:12 Seth Well, we got Jesus. And then. And then you're later in the conversation, we got Brittany Crane.

01:08:28:12 - 01:08:30:16 Brittany But I appreciate that. I appreciate that.

01:08:30:18 - 01:08:53:22 Seth But no, truly, we see you as, you know, a mentor and a coach. It's going to bless our lives. And you know that you got it all together. And and, you know, as you work with people and, or as we, we coach people in entrepreneurial field, they're really surprised. They're always surprised because I'm super vulnerable. Like I'm super open with people.

01:08:54:00 - 01:09:12:04 Seth Wow. You're like you're just a normal person like that. I don't want to say normal while you feel the same things that I feel. You have the same struggles that I have, that I have. Right. You know, they they look at a successful business and they think, oh yeah, everybody just loves you and says, yes.

01:09:12:06 - 01:09:12:07 Brittany You.

01:09:12:12 - 01:09:31:11 Seth Know, what you got to understand is, more people have told us no than you can even imagine right now. But it was worth it. And we just we took it. One lesson, one stumble, one failure, you know, one affirmation at a time and just had had to do a lot of that.

01:09:31:11 - 01:09:35:09 Brittany So yeah, I love that.

01:09:35:11 - 01:10:06:09 Seth And you're you're babe, you're a pro. You're really a pro. You're amazing I think I think Stephanie's built for this because, even even more so than than maybe I am because she is truly one of the most compassionate people that I have ever met in my life. And both of you being empaths, by the way, the meeting I was going to say a meeting of the minds, but it's more like a meeting of the emotions, a meeting of the energies.

01:10:06:11 - 01:10:18:02 Brittany Yeah, Steph, I was going to say it from what I've known about you, you put people at ease and make them your friend very quickly. And that that is an amazing skill to have as a podcast host.

01:10:18:04 - 01:10:33:21 Stephanie Thank you that you'll never know what that means to me. I look up to you a lot, so hearing that from you I feel seen is one thing. I feel like that is something that I strive to do when I feel like I am good at it. But then to have someone like you say that and validate it is really big.

01:10:33:21 - 01:10:34:16 Stephanie Thank you.

01:10:34:18 - 01:10:37:12 Brittany Yeah, yeah, it's true. It's the truth. Thank you.

01:10:37:15 - 01:10:43:14 Seth Amen. I second and I second and ratify that vote.

01:10:43:16 - 01:10:50:17 Stephanie How can women balance physical health, mental health and self-care in their daily lives?

01:10:50:19 - 01:11:22:22 Brittany Find something that works for all three? I think that's this. The short, simple answer. I know for me, physical health affects my mental health. And so I often use my self-care time to work on my physical health. Just last night on my my My Brave Talk Show podcast, we were talking about how we've all been doing with our self-care, and I'm like, honestly, I haven't been doing great at my self-care, but I haven't completely abandoned it.

01:11:23:02 - 01:11:48:02 Brittany One of my self-care things that's a non-negotiable every day is is working out, is moving my body in some way. And the days that I, I lift heavy weights for me, it's just like this immediate empowerment where I'm like, yes, I can do hard things. I can lift up this bar, that I can do hard things mentally to like it's and it's not even something that I have to like physically.

01:11:48:02 - 01:12:09:05 Brittany Like mentally think about, like, I lifted this bar, I can do this other thing. Like if I ever have a hard time, I can remind myself of that. But for me, like, it's so natural now for me, on the days that I, I lift weights and I, I move my body, I just have a better day. That day my attitude is better, my perspective is better where I'm like, yeah, bring it on.

01:12:09:05 - 01:12:39:23 Brittany Like I've got, you know, I've already worked out and done these hard things this morning. I bring on whatever the day has for me, right? Like I have more energy for the day and it's it's mental for me. So it's that moving your body really is important. And I think, you know, our culture is so set on our appearance and so focused on our, our appearance that we're missing out on the benefits of physical fitness, on your mental game, on your mental health.

01:12:39:23 - 01:13:04:04 Brittany We we see working out as a punishment because you're overweight or we see working out as a means to get skinny or to fit into clothes or, you know, whatever it is, look a certain way, right? That the media tells us is beautiful. And when we do that, we rob ourselves of of the mental benefits of of moving your body.

01:13:04:04 - 01:13:29:08 Brittany And, and naturally, you know, when you have a fit body, you're able to chase your dreams. And I think that's one of the biggest blessings of Fit Body has given me, is that I have I have the energy in the body to chase my dreams. I'm not sick. I'm not dealing with health issues because and not able to, you know, go after and pursue things because my body is holding me back, if that makes sense.

01:13:29:12 - 01:13:49:07 Stephanie Absolutely, absolutely. That's definitely something that I've had to, I'm still on a journey of, you know, healing my body. And that's probably, let's say, my number one complaint sometimes, you know, it's just, oh, I want to do this. Okay. Then I have to like setbacks. That's really good at grounding me and helping me step back. Okay. But what can you do today?

01:13:49:09 - 01:14:07:17 Stephanie You know, like like just before, you know, the podcast. Well, a couple hours ago, you know, I was like, oh, I probably should go on a walk, but I don't know, you know, and then all the different things come in the head like, well, usually I take the girls so we can do it together and get out together and, but you know, and stuff is just really good at encouraging me.

01:14:07:17 - 01:14:25:19 Stephanie Stephanie, I think you should take that walk. I think would be good for you. So I'm like, okay, so you know, I did the walk and I came back and did a little weeding along the way. And, you know, it really helped me to feel amazing physically, emotionally, spiritually, mentally. Like in all aspects. And I'm like, oh, that's right.

01:14:25:19 - 01:14:51:13 Stephanie Okay. You know, this is why I do it, to help myself feel better and feel like I can accomplish the things that I do have in front of me. And on some days I love that more. So did you hear about, talking about, you know, media and how just, how focused on image they are. Did you hear about when, Encanto came out and how they Disney I don't think it was Disney.

01:14:51:13 - 01:15:02:14 Stephanie But anyways, that or whomever it was that was producing, you know, the, the dolls and the different figurines and different things from the movie, somebody and I telling this right.

01:15:02:16 - 01:15:05:13 Seth After, it sounds good. We'll publish it.

01:15:05:15 - 01:15:19:02 Stephanie So, so they were going to Disney and and saying, you know, we'd like to do I can't remember what her name is, the sister that our daughter likes to call her, the strong one. So I don't remember what her name is.

01:15:19:04 - 01:15:19:21 Brittany I know who you're talking about.

01:15:19:22 - 01:15:31:12 Seth We just call her The Strong. Like, hey, I'm glad we listen to that soundtrack like 17,000 times. I love it, love it, and we could all sing it, but she's like, can you play the strong one song, right?

01:15:31:12 - 01:15:39:18 Stephanie Yeah. Even to the point where I'm like, going to Alexa and being like, Alexa, play the strong one. Oh, wait, what is that called?

01:15:39:20 - 01:15:42:22 Brittany because I'm like, that's hey, Alexa might know. Strong one.

01:15:43:00 - 01:16:10:07 Stephanie I think after a while she did. But anyway, so they were, you know, saying that they wanted to produce or I'm sorry, they wanted to make her, you know, really strong. And they were hesitant. And they they went ahead and let her, you know, be the strong one in, in the movie. And then later they were, doing dolls of these different sisters, and they did a bunch of the pretty one, the, you know, the flowers, the flower girl.

01:16:10:07 - 01:16:10:15 Brittany Yeah.

01:16:10:17 - 01:16:30:23 Stephanie Yes. And they ended up finding out that more people, more of the kids wanted the strong one. And I was so excited to hear, you know, that we're taking the turn with our kids and how the kids, I mean, some of them obviously want the pretty one or want that too, but but the most popular one was the strong one.

01:16:30:23 - 01:16:36:06 Brittany I love that I had. I hadn't heard that before and I absolutely love that.

01:16:36:08 - 01:17:03:14 Seth Wow. Brittany, you are, incredible. This has been an incredible conversation, and we're excited and honored to be, to be proponents, in whatever way we can with our voice, however, big or small but resonant, to to share this message because it is something that could literally change the world.

01:17:03:17 - 01:17:15:11 Brittany Thank you for letting me share my message. Thanks for asking me to be on here and and giving me a place to share my voice. It it means a lot to me and and I know I could talk forever. So I appreciate your time.

01:17:15:13 - 01:17:17:23 Seth Okay. We like we like long episodes. Action.

01:17:18:01 - 01:17:20:06 Stephanie So we could talk forever.

01:17:20:08 - 01:17:25:11 Seth It's actually good for you to, like, do you have anything on YouTube right now?

01:17:25:13 - 01:17:27:10 Brittany My podcast is also on YouTube.

01:17:27:12 - 01:18:00:00 Seth Okay, so is it a video podcast? Oh, okay. Beautiful, beautiful. So, you know, we work with the coaching company, content coaching company out of Vegas, in a coaching program that they have, and we were originally talking about. Well, well, let's keep our episodes short. Right? Keep them short because people are busy, and we've actually had some feedback prior to starting to show, you know, from, from some of our target audience, you know, one, one woman in particular is like, hey, just get in, get the story, get it.

01:18:00:00 - 01:18:22:17 Seth I'm a busy lady, right? you know, and that's what you and, you know, Steph should consider, which is totally valid. And yeah, on the other hand, there's this idea that listen, like, if you're in a long, beautiful conversation with a friend, like you don't put time limit on your friend most of the time. Right? Like, like you, you make space, right.

01:18:22:17 - 01:18:45:04 Seth You make space for that conversation. And what are we working to create? We're looking to create community. And this community look like, okay, we got 12.5 minutes to get this in. Get this out. Let's tell this story right or I'm sorry. We're at a 30 minute episode. And like there are all different kinds of strategies. Right? But but our our content coaching company said, listen, here's the deal.

01:18:45:06 - 01:19:09:11 Seth we, we we're going to start making shorter stuff. and by the way, they have this creator has over a million, 1,000,000 hours last year, a million views, 1,000,000 hours viewed content. Right. business World, I had said, well, if we have long episodes, maybe we should split them up because we can record less and we're busy parents.

01:19:09:11 - 01:19:33:06 Seth We're building a business. We're in the ministry. Right? Doing an hour, doing an hour long podcast or, you know, 45 minute podcast every week. That's a lot. Maybe we should do them every other week and then we'll do them, you know, an hour and a half, and then they'll be 40 minutes. And they said, we totally don't recommend that from a reach standpoint, because YouTube specifically, and that's why we're doing a video podcast as well.

01:19:33:08 - 01:19:58:22 Seth YouTube once long the number one metric. And you know, this kind of back to your you're talking about Instagram, right. Because we have the same thing. We're you know, we're seeking to grow our voice to enlarge the footprint, impact more people. And sometimes you feel like the algorithm hates you like Ali is her name. Ali is not your best friend, right?

01:19:59:00 - 01:20:00:13 Brittany oh. That's amazing.

01:20:00:15 - 01:20:20:00 Seth She's that girl. And she's that girl in high school. Totally ignores you or hates on you, you know? Anyway, the idea was no longer. Longer is actually better. And maybe people, maybe everybody doesn't want your full episode. But do you want do you want people watching a bunch of short stuff, or do you want people staying for dinner?

01:20:20:02 - 01:20:36:20 Seth You know what I'm saying? And so we've had fun, you know, I mean, I we have one episode that's one, two under an hour, but, you know, we we run an hour, an hour and a half on every one of these episodes and, and and the more it's watch time, you know, we want people to you want people to stay with that conversation.

01:20:36:20 - 01:20:55:05 Seth You want people to have a friend. You want them to have community. So we'll, we'll hop on and we just tell people, listen, you know, you you drive to work. In fact, we were on, I was on the phone today with Terry. Terry from Houston. Right. She reached out to me, and, she's got this hour.

01:20:55:10 - 01:21:19:05 Seth She's in Houston, and she she said, she's about retirement age, and she just wants to retire and be happy and do something. She loves to make enough money, but she's in this job. It's paying her, you know, well enough. But she's got like a like an hour plus commute, I think every each way. And so she leaves early and gets home late and she says, Seth, I leave, I leave to work, and I'm angry.

01:21:19:06 - 01:21:40:14 Seth And then I come home. By the time I get home, I'm angry, you know? And I just said, girl, go, friend, you need to put you put the the Forever Young show podcast, or you put the brave, you put the brave talk show on. Right. And and you just you travel with some friends, you have a conversation with your friends while you're in that, in that long commute.

01:21:40:18 - 01:21:43:16 Brittany Yeah, that's that was good advice.

01:21:43:18 - 01:21:58:01 Stephanie It's so funny. So I went, to the temple with my ministering sister the other day. Afterwards, we went out to dinner. We were talking, and I was like, hey, have you checked out our podcast? I don't know if I've told you. And, she's like, oh, yeah, I think you've talked to me about it, but I haven't checked it.

01:21:58:01 - 01:22:15:11 Stephanie I'll listen it on the way home. How long is it? You know, like shorter or is it longer? I was like, no, as long. Yeah. Because I mean, we were only like, I don't know, 12 minutes from home or something. And she was like, well, like how long it's I told. And she's like, how do you talk that long?

01:22:15:12 - 01:22:17:13 Seth She's like, you know my husband.

01:22:17:15 - 01:22:41:06 Stephanie No. Well, I mean, I talk a lot too, but it's really interesting because any I've had a few people say that to me and it's typically women that I talk to. And we've just had like an hour or two hour conversation. And so I'm like, you know, I, I think even myself included at the beginning, like, you know, you don't really realize that a podcast is just conversation between people.

01:22:41:08 - 01:22:46:18 Stephanie And so it actually can be very easy to go for an hour.

01:22:46:19 - 01:23:04:04 Seth I honestly, I honestly, I mean, you know, Joe Rogan and some of his shows are, you know, two, three, 4 or 5, six hours and people are listening to them because they're making them part of their lives. They want to be part of that conversation. Once you're in a community, right? They think you only we're only publishing this once a week right now.

01:23:04:06 - 01:23:22:14 Seth That's an hour and a half. We've been here about an hour and well, now in 46 of of running time. But the episode itself, and then we'll release a little private private content that not everybody gets. That's only for people on our email list, just kind of some of the bat conversation. But that's only an hour and a half a week.

01:23:22:16 - 01:23:23:19 Brittany That's that's going to.

01:23:23:19 - 01:23:36:14 Seth Take us a long time to get to 1,000,000 hours a week, you know? So, I mean, we could have talked about like we talked about like four things on the list, right. And and could have just spent more time, which means we may have to have around two round.

01:23:36:14 - 01:23:38:12 Brittany Two with that.

01:23:38:14 - 01:23:39:13 Seth Get out there, girl.

01:23:39:19 - 01:23:42:01 Stephanie But, Brittany Crane.

01:23:42:03 - 01:23:42:20 Brittany

01:23:42:22 - 01:23:43:13 Seth Yeah. Was that her.

01:23:43:13 - 01:23:52:14 Brittany Niche? No, it's get out, girl. Get out girl. Get. Oh, I didn't even realize.

01:23:52:16 - 01:24:00:11 Seth It had that meaning. I was thinking more of, like, get out. Like you're getting out. No, it's like you know, girl.

01:24:00:12 - 01:24:16:01 Brittany Just get out. Oh. That's good. Oh, I get it all the time. And I'm like, that's rude actually. But you're telling me to get out like that's mean. And then I just laugh and and sarcastic about it. It's pretty fun.

01:24:16:03 - 01:24:22:11 Seth It's awesome. Yeah. Thank you. Win win. By the way, when is the the launch?

01:24:22:13 - 01:24:38:12 Brittany I don't know yet. Okay. it's so close. It's so close. But, I have a couple tweaks that I'm waiting for my husband to help me with, and it's a little bit hard to get his attention.

01:24:38:13 - 01:24:45:08 Stephanie So, how is his his homestead show? How's that going? Have they launch that yet?

01:24:45:10 - 01:24:59:22 Brittany No, but they did announce yesterday the date. So it's going to launch December 20th. So that's that's really exciting. So that's. Yeah, that's going to be a big deal. So we're happy to have a date for that one. Yes.

01:25:00:00 - 01:25:02:22 Stephanie Yes. Where are they doing that. Like where is that going to be.

01:25:03:00 - 01:25:23:08 Brittany shown I actually don't know where they're going to have like the red carpet premiere. I know they'll do some smaller VIP showings here in Utah before the actual release in theaters, but I don't know where they're going to do the red carpet. I'm secretly hoping or not so secretly hoping that they'll do it in Tennessee. They've done some red carpet things there.

01:25:23:08 - 01:25:27:06 Brittany So I'm I'm like, that's my that's my chance to go to Tennessee when I've never been there.

01:25:27:06 - 01:25:31:03 Seth So that's our chance to go again as roadies one.

01:25:31:06 - 01:25:34:15 Brittany Yeah, I'll get you tickets.

01:25:34:17 - 01:25:52:09 Stephanie Yeah. Well, when you go to Tennessee, there's one specific place that you have to go for breakfast if you can. Okay. We found it the last day, and it was absolutely incredible. Like, like one of the best cinnamon rolls that we've ever had in our life. And my mom makes incredible homemade.

01:25:52:09 - 01:25:53:09 Brittany So, so.

01:25:53:09 - 01:25:54:18 Stephanie This is saying something.

01:25:54:20 - 01:25:55:09 Brittany Okay.

01:25:55:11 - 01:26:10:12 Seth So we're talking about comfort food here Brittany. My comfort food like southern southern comfort food. Right. So like do you like like like biscuits. Like can you get into biscuits. Like really good. Like. No.

01:26:10:14 - 01:26:24:03 Brittany So I love biscuits and I love cinnamon rolls, but I'm actually allergic to gluten. I think my fifth baby gave me that allergy. And so I am not biscuit friendly at the moment.

01:26:24:05 - 01:26:26:22 Stephanie We'll have to see if I think they might have had a chance.

01:26:26:23 - 01:26:30:11 Brittany Of care for me. If you want biscuits, it's so sad.

01:26:30:12 - 01:26:44:18 Seth Well, next. Yeah, that is sad. but but I guess I will eat your portion next time I go then. that's that's the kind of compassion that I have. Anyway, it was this place called Biscuit Love, which is the most amazing.

01:26:44:18 - 01:26:48:13 Brittany Well, I'm sure they'll have other things for me. And my husband can enjoy the biscuits now.

01:26:48:15 - 01:26:55:15 Seth Actually, I think everything in Tennessee is gluten filled. I don't think there's no. I'm just kidding. I'm like terrible, terrible.

01:26:55:15 - 01:27:01:13 Brittany That's so that's that's going to have to bring a suitcase of my own food. Even Trader Joe's book.

01:27:01:15 - 01:27:11:21 Seth All right. Well thank you. We, we know you charge, like, $5,000 an hour normally. So getting us in, you know, we we're very, very grateful you've been up.

01:27:11:21 - 01:27:13:13 Brittany Have been awesome. Thank you.

01:27:13:13 - 01:27:18:17 Seth For you. And cut. It's a wrap.

01:27:18:19 - 01:27:33:20 Stephanie Thank you so much for being here today. And thank you for sharing this episode with that one friend who needs this conversation. Thank you for all the ratings, the reviews, the comments, and especially the support. We so appreciate you.

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